Friday, November 21, 2014

Love yourself

I never want to come across as preaching on my blog. I definitely don't know it all, and I'm not certain about a lot of things. But I write each day to strengthen that certainty. I write to uncover my truth.

Like most girls and women, my self-esteem and self-love has been a slow-growing process. It's something I find myself writing about all the time. Yesterday was a tough day, full of self-doubt. So I decided to write what I do know.

image from Etsy, by Lim Heng Swee

If you can’t find a way to love yourself, there is honestly nothing you can do to fill the void in your heart, the one telling you that you aren’t enough.

You can travel the world, date a hundred “right ones”, you can search all over the universe to fill that self-love deficit, but you will never fill it just right.

That’s what I know for sure. My self-love is a lock, and I am the only one that has the key to open it. It doesn’t matter how many keys feel like they could possibly fit, or how many guys, hobbies, places I feel could nearly match that lock. The truth is, loving ourselves is a job we must do before allowing anyone else to do it.

It doesn’t matter if you have someone showering you with compliments, believing in all the things that you don’t think you are, if you cannot fall madly in love with the person you see staring back at you in the mirror, none of it matters.

Each day that I wake up and choose to not be kind to myself, I realize something a dear friend once told me. “Not loving yourself is like being in an abusive relationship with yourself. Why would you decide to punch yourself when you are already down on the ground?”

When it is time for me to find love, I want to love without conditions. In order to do that, I have had to learn what it is like to love myself unconditionally.

I think beyond being in meaningful relationships, loving ourselves allows us to see the best in every situation, and make decisions that have our best interest at heart.

You eat better, you exercise more, you take trips, you laugh more, smile more, dream more.

You want the best of all things in life when you love yourself.

Love yourself for all that you are, all that you were, and all that you have let to be. 

Happy Friday, xoxo.

1 comment:

  1. This is beautiful. Loving yourself first is the key to living life to the fullest.


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